I just got the news of my maasi's death from my mother. I was obviously shocked to hear. But i used the knowledge about death given by Guruji during Pitaji's death and was able to stay calm, much more calm than i was when i learnt about my grandfather's death which is the last death of a closed one that i remember.
I was quite close to her and shared an extremely friendly relationship with her. In my childhood i used to call her informally saying "tu" and thus our relationship had no respect-related issues. It is pretty obvious that i'm extremely sad at her death and will miss her immensely.
I was in Bangalore when Pitaji expired and thus clearly remember the lessons given by Guruji at that time about death. One of those lessons was to take even death as a celebration in the sense that one person has completed the journey of this lifetime successfully and another one was to meditate as a means of mourning. As soon as i kept my mother's phone down, i told my friend about the loss and then sat down to meditate for few minutes. Few moments of silence was all i could offer her after she had passed away.
There was no purpose of getting sad as my sadness could not bring her back to life. But at the same time it is humanly impossible to be joyful at such moments. And so i decided to dive fully into the grief all at once instead of trying to be happy momentarily for the time being and then taking this pain later in instalments. By doing this its not that i won't remember her later, but i think its better to cry it all out so that you are able to move on with your routine life
Guruji had also told to take any death you come across as a realization of the ultimate truth of life, Death.
One moment a person is a normal breathing-walking-talking human being and next moment he is just a body having all the biological parts that a living person has, but still not alive. What is it that goes missing from the body at that moment of death? What is that life force which distinguishes the living from the death?
Staying with these questions is all that is required to change the life's perspective and to cross to the other shore.
I was quite close to her and shared an extremely friendly relationship with her. In my childhood i used to call her informally saying "tu" and thus our relationship had no respect-related issues. It is pretty obvious that i'm extremely sad at her death and will miss her immensely.
I was in Bangalore when Pitaji expired and thus clearly remember the lessons given by Guruji at that time about death. One of those lessons was to take even death as a celebration in the sense that one person has completed the journey of this lifetime successfully and another one was to meditate as a means of mourning. As soon as i kept my mother's phone down, i told my friend about the loss and then sat down to meditate for few minutes. Few moments of silence was all i could offer her after she had passed away.
There was no purpose of getting sad as my sadness could not bring her back to life. But at the same time it is humanly impossible to be joyful at such moments. And so i decided to dive fully into the grief all at once instead of trying to be happy momentarily for the time being and then taking this pain later in instalments. By doing this its not that i won't remember her later, but i think its better to cry it all out so that you are able to move on with your routine life
Guruji had also told to take any death you come across as a realization of the ultimate truth of life, Death.
One moment a person is a normal breathing-walking-talking human being and next moment he is just a body having all the biological parts that a living person has, but still not alive. What is it that goes missing from the body at that moment of death? What is that life force which distinguishes the living from the death?
Staying with these questions is all that is required to change the life's perspective and to cross to the other shore.
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